And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which God hath graciously given thy servant. (Genesis 33:5 KJV).
When it counts most, it is the women and the children who suffer. They bear the brunt of society’s failings. They are the most vulnerable ones .
They are not the least important but their status and how they are treated is the real measure of any society’s true potential.
Women are nurturers. Children are the future in seed form which women nurture. Where ever you find the two groups together, there you will also find true wealth in it’s latent developing form.
Children in the hands of a good woman live and thrive. They are nurtured, taught both practical things and wisdom for living. Greatness is developed there, irrespective of disadvantages or lack or deprivation, the children are safe with their good mothers who will put every resource available into the nurturing of the children first.
During the recent earthquakes in Japan, the world saw a very emotional picture of a dead woman who was pulled out of the rubble after many days. The rescuers were shocked to find that cradled securely and safely in her arms was her baby who was still alive because the mother used her body to bear the brunt of the dangerous debris which fell on them and buried them. What a portrait of love. She gave her life to preserve a generation.
You hear it all the time, women give up their careers, what they could have been, they sacrifice these for the sake of their marriages and their children so they can focus on the seed carriers and the seeds so as to give them the best future .
Although a woman does not produce biological seed but only receives it, God made this phenomenal statement concerning the woman in her worse moment of crisis when she had not even behaved appropriately;
‘And the Lord God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou art cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel’. (Genesis 3:14, 15 KJV)
The seed of the woman shall bruise the serpents head. Phenomenal. It takes greater power to bruise the head of a thing than it’s heel. To bruise the head there has to be a face to face confrontation which requires strategising and preparation. To bruise the heel requires so much less. It simply requires coming from behind the person and hurting them unawares.
It is the seed which the woman brings forth and nurtures, trains, teaches etc that will confront the darkness in the world and win the victory. All children need good mothers, not only to bring them forth but to bring them up as well with instruction, admonition and gentle and tender loving care. They need their fathers too but in a different way. They need their fathers to give them a begining, an identity, a calling, a name, boundaries and access to provisions to ensure their care.
Children are not the only seeds a woman can nurture. All visions need nurturers. If you doubt what I am saying go to any church or caring organisation and you will see that the women out number the men. Their hearts are soft, they are receptive and hospitable and provide the atmosphere for growth. They bring beauty to a thing.
The issue is not that a woman does not have seed of her own. Whatever a woman has is supposed to be a depository, a bank, a resevoir to be accessed under authority for a specific purpose, a help meet (suitable for a particular purpose). She cannot therefore use it anyway and anyhow she likes. She has to be released to use it or else she destroys herself.
It is a good woman who also ensures that the seed carrier, the man, does not waste his seed which is the greatness in him but puts it to good use as a responsible person, who doesnot shift blame, so that his assignment and the work of his hands does not cease and end with him but is carried safely and transferred to another generation of seed carriers.
So it does not matter how much wealth and power you accumulate if the women you are associated with are not cared for, allowed to use resources, elevated, protected, your hardworking and all your efforts will end with you. A woman has the capacity to build without hankering for accolade or recognition. All she needs is to be well cared for and honoured in her environment and not left idle or resourceless (without a seed) or without opportunities to nurture.
The worse thing on earth to a woman is not being able to carry seed and bring it forth. No amount of comforting words can fill that vacuum. She needs seed which has been released to her. Without seed she will be idle and she will get into trouble trying to fill that vacuum with other things.A woman’s seed which she brings forth and nutures, defines her. Just start a thing, hand it over to a good woman and you can be sure that it will grow into what you couldn’t even plan for. It will bear many fruits as long as you give good boundaries, the support needed and you do not control the nurturing but give it the needed resources and environment, it will grow. Good women have the ‘Midas Touch’.
In the absence of this, your seed attempts to grow in harsh, hostile, competitive environments and becomes stunted in it’s growth. Anyone who does not release, commision and allow the resources and virtue in the women in his life to take effect does not grow proportionally. Because nurturing has been stunted, growth gets stunted as well. True nurturing of a vision (seed) and the vision carier (seed giver) cannot be replaced with any other thing. It shows in the results in the long term.
You see, God set up a structure after the fall of man. A woman’s desire shall be to her husband. In other words, everything a woman desires for herself shall be subjected to the approval of her husband or the authority figure in her life. If she is not married that will be her father, biological, adopted, spiritual. She herself is to subject her desire to him. It is her husband as the seed carrier who gives her seed a name, an identity and gives her the permission, the masculine support and sets the boundaries within which her protection is secure so that she can nurture the seed and bring it forth.
‘Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee’. (Genesis 3:16 KJV)
A woman who refuses to subject herself to this authority usurps her resources and abuses the seed she has. She will go overboard and the enemy knows it too.
God’s basic structure of functioning has not changed even after the redemptive work of Jesus. Why should it? The value of the woman has not changed. Her potential and abilities are still there just as God made them. Women and their seed still need security and protection and elevation and release according to God’s order.
‘For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (Ephesians 5:23-28 KJV)
We are none of us without seed. But unless the seed in a woman is named, affirmed and called forth it remains a seed. A woman cannot bring forth without casualties to the seed if that seed and the woman herself is not identified and supported through the whole process. You cannot behave anyhow when you are pregnant. You need someone to hold up their hands and say they are responsible for you and the iunborn child. You need their support even after you get pregnant and you need boundaries, things you are allowed to do and not allowed to do. You need antenatal care, love and security, all these to bring forth a healthy child without suffering miscarriages along the way. Same principle applies to vision and all else you do as a woman.
God knows the richness of the resources he has put in women so whenever there was a great moment of crisis in bible times, he calls on the women to travail, to cry out to bring forth a deliverer. He does not call on the politicians, the great ones in society, he calls on the woman, for the sake of posterity.
A woman is a resource bank, a favour bank, a vessel that needs to be treated according to knowledge and handled honourably because of what she contains. Her weakness is a vulnerability not because she is inferior but because she is carrying important cargo. Husbands are asked to honour them. Will God ask you to honour something inferior. No. You honour something valuable.
‘Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered’.( 1 Peter 3:7 KJV).
It is the vessel that is weak, not its contents. The strongest people I know are women. They have been through a lot but rise up, and keep going without complaining. They know how to answer the questions of life that confronts them.
That is why God has highly favoured women and has gone to all lengths to ensure their security. A man marries into a woman’s favour not her lack. If he is unable to do anything with that favour that is his own fault.
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22 KJV).
Looking at the the main verse in this article, Jacob was about to have the greatest confrontation of his life with his twin brother who he stole the birth right from. So what does he do? He divides his whole entourage into sections, sending ahead of him his men, the fighters, ( the economists, the politicians, etc) with portions of his wealth , cattle and sheep hoping that these will impress his brother and he will take them as presents from him so that his anger may be calmed.
But these were just material things. They did not represent Jacob’s future. They did not represent his seed, his potential or his capacity to take future territories. Esau knew this. He was not interested in seeing the present day fruits. He was more interested in seeing the seed carrier( Jacob), the seed nurturers and the seeds. These were the true measure of his wealth.
I pray that God will give you the wisdom to choose good and wise, seed carriers( men) and able seed nurturers ( women ). Also that you will count your wealth not by your fruits but by your nurturing capacity and by your seed which the Lord God will bless you with so that your future will be the expected end that God has in mind for you.