And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. (John 8:32 KJV).
It is amazing how difficult it is to attribute blame to oneself when things go wrong around us. Blaming oneself or taking the responsibility for things not working is a skill which everyone needs to cultivate. The natural human response when things go wrong is to find out whose fault it is. The last person we look at is ourselves and even when we eventually do, we go all the way to the other extreme of being overly critical of ourselves.
In respect of those who blame others apart from themselves, they usually take themselves out of relationships and move on to other relationships believing that in so doing they will rid themselves of the problem people in their lives.
The important thing for effective change and progress in life is not necessarily getting away from problems or problem people but rather creating a right response to the problem. As as long as we react and not respond in a balanced truthful way, we do ourselves a disservice because we are not making use of the truth about ourselves, our weaknesses, our strengths, our talents and skills, our ability to endure or bring change or to make a difference.
The springboard for right responses is embedded in what we each consider to be the truth. But what is truth? Truth is subjective is usually the brain child of whoever it is who is putting it forward. It may or may not be based on facts. Even facts can be variable depending on who is experiencing such facts. There is always different perspectives from which different people view the same thing.
In deciding what is ‘truth’, there is always one constant which makes all the difference and makes that truth relevant. That constant is the person who has the truth. You are therefore the guardian of your own freedom.
Our responses to situations and circumstances have to be the right responses, being mindful of the fact we are first of all responsible for ourselves, and also for our contribution to the problem, in terms of what we did or what we failed to do which directly or inadvertently contributed to the negative state of affairs.
The greatest enemy to real fulfilment is therefore this; ‘not having a balanced view of ourselves’. Not learning or knowing in a balanced way the ‘truth’ about ourselves. We become prisoners to ourselves, our prejudices, our tolerances and intolerances etc. We become a beseiged city. Nothing goes in and nothing comes out. We are a law unto ourselves.
There is one person you can never get away from no matter how hard you try. And that is yourself. No matter how quickly you escape from adverse relationships and circumstances you take the main variable which is you with you. It is that same you that you are putting into the next mix, or relationship or set of circumstances and unless you do the work needed to bring change in yourself, you simply compound your problems.
You are the only one you carry everywhere with you. What you feel, what you think, what you want etc, determines how you live your life.
It is time to get rid of the rose tinted glass from which we view ourselves and our world. It is time to come face to face with the truth about ourselves. It is only this which allows us to seek redemption, to seek a saviour, to seek the ultimate truth, which is able to reveal our true identities to us. Moreover this gives us real value to match our face values. This is what sets us free. Free from manipulation by others, free from deception about ourselves, and deception from others, free from fear, free from what we think we cannot live without or cannot live with. Free to be who we were trully meant to be. Free from ourselves and our self imposed struggles, be it for fame, for fortune, for survival, for …. who knows what the human heart can imagine and desperately want?
What if you had the freedom to live your life without ‘you’ getting in your own way for a fulfilled life?
That will be freedom indeed.
Only the truth does that for us. The way to recognise truth is that it sets you free, primarily from yourself.
For example, only a free man can ‘love his enemies and do good to them’.
Anything that does not set you free in the real sense of the word is not the truth. When I say free, I mean free from yourself, free to do something about your inadequacies, your bad habits, sins, excesses, pride, over ambition etc.
The only one I know who can give you that kind of freedom is Jesus Christ. Wait a minute, don’t tune out at this time. I am not talking about a religion, but about the only relationship that any human can enter into which is so secure that we relax our hold on protecting ourselves long enough for change in our innermost being to occur. A relationship that allows you to recognise your shortfalls while shielding you with love at the same time and providing the way, the power and the ability to make the journey to becoming a ‘free you’.
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. (John 8:36 KJV).
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV).
Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord. (2 Corinthians 3:17, 18 KJV).
For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. (Romans 7:18, 19, 24, 25 KJV)
Thus saith the Lord, Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, neither let the mighty man glory in his might, let not the rich man glory in his riches: But let him that glorieth glory in this, that he understandeth and knoweth me, that I am the Lord which exercise lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness, in the earth: for in these things I delight, saith the Lord. (Jeremiah 9:23, 24 KJV).
Enough Said !!