There is hardly any sense to be had or made from human suffering except perhaps living through it and having enough strength to tell the story to another.
This is of value because not only is it therapeutic and healing in putting a voice to something you have been through, you become a spokesperson for others who have been through it too but may never have the chance to speak about it. You heal them even if only slightly psychologically by telling your story, their story from firsthand experience rather than hear say.
You tell it full of the minute nuances in emotions, the rawness with which the pain was experienced or felt. You make sense of it as you tell it, often gleaning at some level an acceptance of what you have been through or are still going through, thereby making some sense out of what is often seemingly senseless.
Double jeopardy therefore, if you are gagged either by the experience or by people close to you who due to the embarrassment to you and to them of telling your story, refuse you permission to tell it as it is or as it was.
What if the whole reason for going through it, is to have the opportunity to tell it?
It’s a brave new world. Speak up! You could be helping many to make their way through a very dark place.