Nothing outside of you can ultimately control you or your decisions unless you give it permission to do so. It is all a matter of decision making and enforcing that decision once you have made it. It is often said that the universe itself will align to your aid attracting to you everything needed to enable you achieve the firm decision you have made. Is giving up an option? The decision is yours. Whatever you decide on in your heart, whatever your mind gives its accent to, whether good or bad, that is what you will move towards becoming.