ENOUGH SAID!!! - Articles by Selasie Bulmuo, POEMS

It’s A Swap

Tired of waiting, Tired of talking

Tired of smiling, Tired of dreaming

Tired of holding on, Holding on to thin air

Intangible wishes, Even beggars refuse to ride

How much longer, How much more

What else need I give

Hollow inside, Vacuum so deep

Empty sighs, Filled with nothing

Does it sound like I will ever make it through?

Probably not, If you go by what you see

But when all is said and done

I depend not on sight

Although in me there is nothing new

Nothing it seems to hold on to

I am connected to another

Unlike me, this one abounds

In riches that reach the weary soul

This wonderous one, Is full of life

Exuding  energy, Breathing hope

Transmitting power, Shining through the dark

Glows even brighter, Splendourous to behold

Full of substance, Full of beauty

Freely gives, No recourse to others opinion

Beauty for my ashes, Life for lifelessness

Bliss beyond dreams, A reality so real

Tangible hope, Even thin air can’t hide it

An exchange I don’t deserve

Dreams becoming real

For more of this I’m willing

Willing to wait when hope seems gone

A foretaste of better promises

I have no excuse but to yearn for more

I feel so alive when I’m connected

Too alive to stop talking

Too alive to stop smiling

I laugh out loud at every storm

It can’t take me, I am too alive

Too alive to be swallowed by sorrow

Too energised to give in to tiredness

I am awake and I have to tell this tale

Tell everyone I meet about my story

There’s no need to shrivel up

When hope itself becomes hopeless

There’s a place you can go

To receive refreshing

And wake up to brand new life

If only you are willing

To swap misery for victory

Don’t ask me where, ‘Cos if you really search

You will find it there, Right where you are

Just be willing to say, It’s a swap, It’s a deal.

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ENOUGH SAID!!! - Articles by Selasie Bulmuo

Look at the bigger picture and apply yourself fully now. If you find you can’t where you are, find where you can and quickly get to work and work well. Great thoughts Liz. I love the quote at the beginning.

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“Some values are…like sugar on the doughnut, legitimate, desirable, but insufficient, apart  the doughnut itself. We need substance as well as frosting.” – Ralph Tyler Flewelling

 

When I started thinking about the post today, I was trying to find a way to describe what is happening in the workforce and how the demise of ethics is hurting business.

As some of my readers know, I have recently moved and took on a new job. The area I relocated to, is in a heavy oil extraction part of the country. The draw of big bucks and the result of young people thinking that money is easy come by, either because they have chosen to leave school prior to graduation, or their parents have lavished them with ‘things’, has somewhat altered their perception of reality.

We are not new to the area, as we lived near here five years ago.  I think…

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Choices or Sacrifices? Which is it?

I heard a veteran Olympian interviewing a much younger Olympian about his training regime and his aspirations for winning a gold medal. He was quick to correct the young man’s use of the word ‘sacrifices’ when the young man intimated that  he has made a lot of sacrifices to get this far.

The older man said he will prefer that he uses the word ‘choices’ as to get to the stage where you can win a gold medal, you have to make choices that may seem selfish to others. You must be so focused on your goal and be prepared, irrespective of the consequences to forgo all other pressing demands from family, relationships, and other demands for your attention and empathy so as to do what you have to in order to achieve your goal.

I was initially annoyed at this train of thought but after thinking about it for a while I began to see the point he was making.

Sometimes your vision must be a ‘tunnel vision’ and not a ‘balanced vision’. It must focus solely and only on your targeted goal ignoring all distractions and counter pieces of advice about taking it slower, being more balanced, being more considerate of others. Most high acheivers, know the risks and against all advice still make the choices and decisions that only lead them directly to what they have purposed to acheive. They know the glory may be temporary and short lived with many consequences following and yet they take the leap anyway.

For People like this, it is important for those around you to realise you have made that choice and be prepared to respect and support it and not force their demands on you. Most acclaimed successful people who are known for specific acheivements do and have taken this route sometimes. They have trampled and walked on a lot of people’s feelings and wishes in their journey to their dream. We have later applauded their accomplishments.

Is this a choice we are prepared to make when it comes to achieving our dreams or is it too much of a selfish choice for us?  Are we calling it a ‘sacrifice’, in other words, looking only at what it costs us ( which in itself is a selfish way of looking at it) or are we calling it a ‘choice’ – which puts the responsibility and liability for the consequences squarely on our shoulders? I will rather have people close to me acknowledge that most of their choices are as a result of their ‘tunnel vision’ than for them to insist that they are making ‘sacrifices’ for ‘our future good’ or even worse for my future good. A great example of this is parents who work all the hours God has given and tell their children they are working so hard so as to secure their future. I used to hate it when my parents said that.

Why is it so hard to admit that ‘we are doing what we are doing first and foremost for OURSELVES’?

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It Is Not Even About That

And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire. (Revelation 20:15 KJV)

There are many reasons why people want to win at contests or competitions. There are motivating factors that spur winners on. Not everybody recognises competitions for what they really are. Infact to win at anything, you first have to win the battle against yourself and your will /motivations.
Life is a like a boot camp. Somehow we all know there is a day coming when we will have to leave. No one, not even the worse culprit stays on boot camp forever. The rawness of the ordeal or the intense pressure you are put under at any boot camp either makes you push harder to get the lessons being taught so you can move on, or it makes you angry, complaining and you just plain want to quit, end of story. You just want to be allowed to go home. But is that really the end of the story?

Life makes most of us choose our motivations. Either to come out overcoming or come out kicking and screaming and complaining about the unfairness of it all.

Whatever our motivations are in life there is a goal that is set before every one of us whether we are aware of it or not. Whether we accept it or not. There’s a list we must make. There is team we must be chosen for. The great coach of life has a book. He has appointed a mediator. He has appointed trainers. They have been there and know what it takes to make the cut. He’s watching our daily progress. It is based on this that a decision is made about whether or not we have made the cut.

Just watch any detox or weight loss bootcamp series on TV. Most participants (for kack of a better word) don’t accept the work they have to do or the reasons they have been ‘imprisoned’ on these boot camps. The teenage rebel’s boot camp is quite interesting to watch. After a while of being there and realising that the regime and order of things are not going to change because of their whinning, they eventually, well some eventually begin to sober up and learn what they have been sent to learn. They even begin to see the benefits at some point and wholly participate in the discipline of the regime.

I say again, that life is like a boot camp. There is a reason behind every discipline and trial and we get to choose whether or not we will be motivated to become what we have to become. Infact we can choose what those motivations will be. They could be different for different people.

The life Coach, the creator, the maker of all that is seen and unseen has a book. His book is called the book of life. Everyone who makes the cut is recorded in this book. Most have heard of this book and this coach. Some could care less about him or his book. Others just want to check out of the boot camp, book or not. Others fervently want to make the list.
He provides a strategy, a training regime, a way to live so we can make the list. The list of the winning group, the winning team, the overcomers. The winners list. His way is easy to find. It is a simple diet of
reliance on a mediator. Someone chosen to run alongside us, to show us how to do life well, no matter the difficulties, someone to show us how to make it onto the list. Someone who has walked in our shoes and knows how it feels to be human and vulnerable and just plain scared.

For me, my motivation is now one beyond just my own self preservation. It has gone beyond just winning and making the list for making sake. I want to be able to meet the coach. To see him face to face. I simply
want to be there. Where else will I rather be?

When I close my eyes to this present realm. I want to immediately be in the company of the winning team,
in the presence of glory. I live in anticipation. But while I live, I waste not my opportunity. This is my chance to make the list. And for me, that is what living is all about.

I donot even want to find out what happens to those that do not make the list. Not because of the horrors I surmise awaits them but simply because, my not making the list will mean that I never get to meet this great coach, I never get to experience life outside ‘bootcamp’ I never get to breathe in the fresh air of glory, to live
really live in the presence of true freedom and magnificence and glory. Never see the one I love, face to
face. That will be worse than any hell I can imagine, worse than any hell ever described or pictured.

My question is; what is it all about  for you? Are just living in the now thinking this boot camp life is all there is? Are you thinking that there is nothing better than this? that this is the end of the story? Are you motivated by the fear of hell? What spurs you on? or have you already left bootcamp in your mind, living with no reason to live?

Even if you think your life in this bootcamp is all the ‘heaven’ there can be, you will have no choice but to leave it one day.

Many people exit this boot camp everyday. I just heard of one yesterday. We say goodbye to them and weep over them. What if they are present in another reality which we can only imagine?

What will it have all been about for you when you give your final bow?

Enough said !!

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Who said it’s over for you?

Joshua 18:6 KJV

Have you ever had an experience that totally rocked your world? One that knocked the winds from your sail and reset the rules of engagement and the boundaries of your life whether for good or for bad?

Change is something we are taught to manage although most of the time we don’t like change. We like to be able to control the direction of our lives, at least to have the capacity to respond to challenges in a way that enables us to continue to move in the direction we are already on or the one we planned and have always had the intention of achieving?

What if something happened that is totally out of your control? An occurrence or event that shifts everything out of focus for you? What do you do then?

Chances are that at least 1 in 10 of us will have such an experience. For some it is the loss of a child, heck the loss of many children like happened to Job in the bible. What do you do when the symbols or your future and your hope is snatched from you without notice?

For others it may be the devastation and disappointment of a cheating spouse? Someone you have invested your whole life in, with your futures mapped out and planned. Heck he or she may even have cheated with someone of the same sex and it has become public knowledge and you feel the reproach all around you? Your relationship is decimated beyond recognition. What do you do?

For others still, it might be the loss of a way of life, a job, a person who is the centre of your life, a business, the contracting of an incurable sickness, the loss of your home and everything you’ve worked for etc.

It is only human that you will be knocked off your feet. Especially when this is an anchor for you and it appears to no longer be holding in the face of the storm. When whatever is happening is no fault of yours and it’s like everything good has deserted you and only confusion is in your abode?

The bible has quite a few sad stories in it and even as a reader you can feel the devastation the people being spoken about are going through and had it been that we do not know the end of their stories, we will have said ‘ it is over for them’. But it appears that their greatest devastations were actually destiny knocking at their doors and the choices they made determined whether good or bad came out of their circumstances.

Take Naomi and her daughters in law – death of a husband and all her children. Poverty and devastation in a foreign land and age was not on her side.

Take Job – from grace to grass story to the extent that even his wife begun to scorn his God. To loose everything, I mean everything in a day and to have a debilitating publicly disgraceful illness on top.

Take Jabez – to have greatness within you but to come from the wrong side of the tracks and to be given a cursed name at birth, in our language we will call him ‘a bad luck’ person.

Take Hannah – barren and fruitless and constantly being ridiculed by her rival.

Tale Leah – put in a marriage by a scheming father to a man who does not want you and wants your sister instead.

Take Esther – a beautiful orphan from the wrong side of the tracks.

Take Bathsheba – your husband killed by the king because of you and you yourself conscripted into a marriage you did not plan for.

Take Jesus – where do I start? The bible calls him a man of many sorrows. The Son of God mistreated and abused in a world he made.

The list could go on and on. But you know the end of the story for all of these ones. Apart from Jesus, you can’t really say any of them planned for whatever they went through. Did it devastate them? Yes, totally!! Did it redefine their lives? Yes definitely. Did good come out of it ? Certainly.

Their lives have been written about as an example to us. That in the face of great loss and change and tragedy, God always extends an opportunity for recovery and restoration, even a whole new life. It may not look like that when it’s happening to you but there is always a seed of greatness in the challenges we face.

The issue is that all the people people will not have their testimonies as we know them now without their life altering experiences. If God had revealed to them what they will suffer, they will not have agreed to or chosen that way for themselves except Jesus Christ ( who saw the cross and still went towards it which is why he is the most amazing person that ever lived and still lives).

Our job is to do what these examples did in the mist of their losses and challenges and confusion. Fix your eyes on God and not on the problem. Hold on to God who is the unchanging one and let hope come alive again and let this hope lead us to our peaceful shores.

I am always inspired by the Story of Joshua in the bible. He lived his life in the shadow of Moses, one of the greatest prophets that ever lived. The things God used Moses to accomplish were breathtaking and jaw dropping. I mean, the sea parting for a multitude to walk through, water coming out of a rock to quench the thirst of a multitude, manna falling from heaven; God spoke to this man, Moses face to face. Joshua was his humble servant basking in the results he could see in Moses life. He idolised ( for lack of a better word) Moses and like all in the camp depended on him. Joshua was not even the first among many, if there was an honor parade in the Israelite’s camp, he probably wouldn’t have been the first to be put forward. But he was a keen observer of God and of Moses and as far as he was concerned there could be no leader in Isreal like Moses. Then Moses goes and dies. Actually, he went up the mountain and never came back which is even worse. The one who led this great multitude out of Egypt and demonstrated the power of God among them and pleaded their cause with God all the way, he was gone. I am sure everyone went into a depression.

Where do you go when your leader who you consider the best or the greatest is no more? To bring it to our world today, what do you do when your Pastor, the great man of God, the one you look up to, the miracle worker, whose very words you hang on to, the vision carrier, the anointed of God is no more? Moses died but some loose their Pastors through all sorts… Sin, pride,etc.

But God in the midst of all this spoke to Joshua. He said:
‘Moses my servant is dead: now therefore arise, go over this Jordan, thou, and all this people, unto the land which I do give to them, even to the children of Israel'(Joshua 1:2 KJV).

‘He is dead’ ….. ‘And now arise’, these two statements do not go together very well, do they? But that is God for you.

You see, the loss you are mourning, has an expiry date. You need to get to its otherside of the story.  That person is gone, that dream is gone, that job is gone, that beauty and youth is gone. That chapter is over. You need to ARISE. Out of the ashes like a Phoenix, spread your wings again, the future is waiting.

But how do you arise? There is only one way. And that is what God said to Joshua. “Be strong and of a good courage: for unto this people shalt thou divide for an inheritance the land, which I sware unto their fathers to give them. Only be thou strong and very courageous, that thou mayest observe to do according to all the law, which Moses my servant commanded thee: turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that thou mayest prosper whithersoever thou goest. (Joshua 1:6, 7 KJV).

That is what I say to you now. Be strong and of good courage. Only be thou ( I mean you, you!) strong and very courageous. Why? That you may observe to do according to what God expects of you. That is the only way to stage a comeback. Come on, let’s do it. Let’s make history. Let your story become an example not a tale of many sorrows.

Enough said !!!

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Jigsaw Puzzle – That’s Life.

Anything or anybody you do not allow to evolve and stand independently of you, you cannot depend or rely on to help you or complete you in your time of need or crisis.

Therefore everyone needs to allow themselves to be made whole and complete so that we each, can fully fit and meet the demands made on us by others.

Without rebelling,  we each must learn to challenge wisely, question advisedly anybody or any process that makes us less than we are capable of being by ourselves because it is the same person or process which will find us wanting or inadequate when it places a demand on us and we come up short. It will compare us to others who have taken the time  to be all they uniquely have the capacity to be. This ensures that, while our negative character traits and habits will have a chance to be corrected, we will not go to the other extreme of becoming a very poor copy of God’s original image for us.

If God didn’t want you to have an independent thought or thinking process, he will not have given you an independent brain or mind. If he has even gone beyond that and renewed your mind, then use it and use it well. Get rid of the slave mentality, the thinking that suggests to you that you are not capable of making a valid contribution in your own right but must perpetually second guess yourself and discredit the validity of your own thinking, your drive, your passion, your giftings, for the sake of peace or for the sake of ‘the greater good’.

We all need one another but we first need one another complete and free to be who we have been made to be. We are each a complete piece of a giant jigsaw puzzle. When we each refuse to allow the edges of the piece of that puzzle that we are to be broken or twisted or cutoff, we will eventually find where we each fit and  we will fit beautifully.

If you have ever put a puzzle together, you will find that there is usually one or more pieces that will just not fit anywhere. You shove it in and bounces right out. This can be very frustrating. No one is an Island. Everyone needs someone to help them, free them, allow them to find their place. Those God has put in our lives to do so have to be careful to not ‘force – fix’ us out of frustration or impatience or misunderstanding of our structure or make up. We must remain complete.

If you don’t allow a puzzle piece to be complete, you will end up squashing it in somewhere to make it fit, thereby destroying the piece and beauty of the whole puzzle. Don’t disfigure anyone or even yourself to make you fit. Better to move along and find your place and be rooted and established there.

As ye have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk ye in him: Rooted and built up in him, and stablished in the faith, as ye have been taught, abounding therein with thanksgiving. Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ. For in him dwelleth all the fulness of the Godhead bodily. And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power: (Colossians 2:6-10 KJV)

Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen. (Hebrews 13:20, 21 KJV).

Enough Said !!

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Are christian women facing a crisis. This is a good question to dialogue about. Share your views please.

A'nesis Retreats and Counseling Sabbaticals

“I’m leaving my husband and the church because I don’t want to be in ministry anymore.  It’s too hard and my heart isn’t in it.  I want to be a normal person…I’m tired of living in a fishbowl.  I’m ready to find peace.”  —exact words of a real client (pastor’s wife) attending intensive therapy at a Christian counseling agency.

 The underlying cause for the multitude of pastors leaving pastoral ministry, centers on two critical issues – marriage/family difficulties and burnout.  Included in this equation is a wife who is herself overloaded and isolated.

 Working with many pastors’ wives in marriage counseling I see the fragile state that many women in ministry and those serving beside their husband in his church are in.

 It is sad that we haven’t taught the caregivers ways to pull away and take care of themselves.  Jesus knew this important principle and practiced it often.  The performance…

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