Warm Honey Drizzle & Lemon - EXCERPTS

Introducing My New Book – Warm Honey Drizzle & Lemon (For my blocked up soul) – A draft Excerpt

5.{Endurance}

 I can do all things, suffer all things, give up everything and still be me if I so determine it. Something inside so strong. Can’t crumble under pressure when I know the strength inside.

 

 

 

The Indomitable Human Will

Strength expressed is often seen, by others as a noble thing

Strength contained is hardly seen,

Its power at rest, Controlled and tamed

It takes much more than meets the eye

To turn and walk away from strife

To deem it fit to keep one’s peace

No matter how provoked one may feel

It is beautiful to watch and indeed to see

This silent strength we all can have

The will to do and the will not to

Is strength beyond the popular show

The human will can move a mountain

There’s always a way, where there is the will

You can survive almost anything, anywhere, at any time

If you just know how to draw, on that treasure, the human will

So next time you are tempted to say out loud, It’s all too much, I cannot cope

Draw on the strength from deep within

Stand tall and dignified, if only on the inside of you

Your will, its strength it will lend to you

To carry on, when hope has died

Don’t let it break, ’tis a treasure indeed

Stand tall inside, your future is for keeps.

 

 

Meet David…..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

They were all smartly dressed in their colourful celebratory military regalia. Graduation day! Thought David. Finally. I am now a full fledged soldier. He turned to look at the young man on his right. His colleague Carl. They arrived as young recruits almost 10 months ago to start their training and despite the many who have fallen out of the race, they both managed to keep up with the gruelling regime and have graduated today.

David, aged 20 was set to take on the world. His military career was just the beginning. He will not succumb to living a dull life, like his parents and some of his friends. He plans to travel around the world and do life the way it was meant to be done, living on the edge, by the seat of his pants, never settling down.

He garnered and begged for his first posting to be an exciting one and by exciting he meant dangerous. It was not long before he was posted to Afghanistan for three months. And so began the great drama of his life. A drama to surpass all other dramas he could have drummed up for himself in his wildest imagination.

His was a moderately comfortable life prior to enlisting in the army. He was still living with his mum and dad in what he felt was an average house, average town with no potential for excitement. He did not have to be concerned about where his next meal was going to come from, or about dangers lurking in the night. He thought the rest of the world was not so different from his, perhaps just a bit more exotic. He thought that all young men just worried about being popular with the girls, being lauded by their mates and spending time being football mad and strategising how to lay hands on the next season’s football premier league tickets. In his world, game boys and virtual war lords were heroes. Jumping off cliffs and going sky diving were the best thrills in life. He was constantly seeking scarier thrills until he decided an army career was what he wanted. No one dared tell him otherwise. His parents felt that at least he will learn some discipline, and after a few years settle down and have a life like theirs. A good life with strong family ties and children and a good job making a decent living. That was not David’s dream.

So he set off for Afghanistan that autumn month last year. How wrong he was about the world. It did not take him long to see that the rest of the world was quite different. It was plagued with, poverty, real poverty, people living in dirt houses that get smashed in whenever it takes others fancy to dislodge them, school was a luxury for young boys his age, everyone had to fight, one way or another, fight to live.

The Horrors of those three months will always remain vivid in his mind no matter how much he tries to forget them. He saw horrible things that no young man should be exposed to. Decapitated human heads, children’s limbs hanging loosely on their bodies, body parts strewn in bits and pieces all over a compound, a place of laughter and communal family meetings now turned into a grave site, whole villages that have been abandoned now ghost towns. David thought to himself, where’s all the love gone? No community of people should be made to live like that by their own people in the name of freedom fighting. His young mind could just not make any sense of it. It seemed that over here betrayal is punished severely, children are treated like comrades in war. Mothers become detectives and war casualties who have to find the bombs before the bombs find them and their children. As a soldier, as far as David was concerned, that was just one side of the story, the enemy’s side. You could not help but feel sorry even for them. These were people whose culture and orientation to life was so different from the carefree, let’s have fun, all is well with the world attitude he and his friends grew up with back at home.

Then came the day he will never forget. The day he became a man. The day he learnt all his lessons at once.

It was to be the day that his life will be irrevocably changed. The morning call went out as usual. His regiment were based in a remote area and everyone knew the morning drill. A splash of cold water on your face, a quick tidying up of yourself, group breakfast eaten in a hurry, after which soldiers dispersed  to their various patrol areas. He was with the bombs squad and theirs was a small team and he was the youngest in this very specialist team.  Their main job was to go over old grounds, detonating bombs and grenades that have been buried by the enemy some as a trap for foreign soldiers and ‘traitors’ and others which were still buried and forgotten right there where their own children and new communities now venture to rebuild their homes. These go off all the time killing civilians, and often travelling indigenous people along with their children. David’s squad are trained to detect such bombs through a painstaking process of sweeping whole areas one little bit at a time. Every single step they took was an exercise in threading a path between life and death. He witnessed first hand a colleague being blown apart by a bomb that went off because his equipment did not detect it. In this area of work your equipment and your attention to every minute detail were the two most important components of what kept you alive.

David was fully geared up today. They, all seven in a group were ready to begin the tedious, step by step accurate horizontal walk to clear the area. It was one of the previous villages where one notorious war lord was known to have been hiding. Now, deserted, there was nothing but debris left over from when the rebels were here; broken pots, pieces of cloths, even tobacco pipes, pans, burnt out remains of food and campfires. The team has to patiently sort through each thing they could see because you never could tell what was lurking underneath something inconspicuous. Anything could be a trap. Even more dangerous were areas of ground that looked cleared and immaculate. There was almost always something buried at such places. Nothing  is considered irrelevant or disregarded and one has to have a keen eye and great focus. You had to be fearless, not the jumping off the cliff kind. You needed to be calm, focused, unflinching, accurate hardheaeded person to do this job and David was learning fast.

He thought to himself as he inched forward; back at home, his friends always called him a daredevil, never afraid to try dangerous stunts. He was considered fearless. Now, he realised that one did not know what fear is until you see colleague decimated by a bomb and you think to yourself, that could very easily have been me. The mental torture of not being able to predict what will happen next was enough to drive a grown man crazy. It was a relief at the end of each day to go back to base with no casualties. Due to their skill and level of training, casualties were rare but profoundly traumatising if you happened to witness one.

David saw a patch of grass just a few steps ahead of him and thought to himself ‘that looks suspicious’. No sooner had he had the thought than he heard his commanding officer yell out a command for everyone to stand still. David’s heart begun to beat erratically. The patch of grass was directly in front of him and it will be him who will have to step towards it as they worked in one single file, going straight ahead only with everyone concentrating on what was directly in front of them. There was no way he could swap places with an older more experienced soldier. All eyes were on him as everyone understood that this patch was his patch to tackle. He was the youngest among them all and the least experienced. He considered himself lucky to even be part of the team. Funny he was not feeling very lucky right now. Sometimes, such patches were clear traps and had something buried there but other times it was a distraction to keep them away from looking at where the real trap is.

The captain knowing he had their attention seemed to be speaking directly to David now. He spoke as softly as he could, reminding him what to do with his equipment. His voice for some reason was soothing and put some much neded confidence in David. The command was given and they all went forward one step. Shouts of ‘clear !’  rang out all around. Another step. ‘clear!’, a third step and he was right in front of the path of green grass. Finding green grass anywhere here was a miracle of nature, but this one seemed to be firmly planted, not a trap, but you never know. Command was given, next step…. As David moved forward, for some reason which he will never fathom, just one of those quirks of fate, he turned to look at the soldier next to him and realised that he was frozen on the spot. He had not taken the next step as ordered, he looked petrified and was shaking profusely. David noticed that the red alarm light on his sweeper was blinking. Soon it started beeping, a sign that there could be something buried right there where he was standing.  David could hear him muttering to himself , ‘ I don’t want to die’ ‘no, no no no I don’t want to die’ David called out his name and said ‘come on man’ do your job, man’.  All attention was now on him. This was no time for delay. If there was a bomb in front of him, it has to be detonated and there was no time to spare. David’s mind played back a conversation he had recently had with him back at base. This man had just received news the previous week that his young wife had delivered their first baby, a baby boy. They all saw the picture of his smiling wife with the beautiful baby boy in his arms. He’s had a huge smile on his face all week and was looking forward to going home to see his new baby as soon as this assignment was over. He had everything to live for.

The captain backed out an order! The distinct tone of urgency could be heard in his voice. David for the life of him could not remember a word of the order. All he could think about was the picture of his colleague’s wife with the new baby in her arms. He had to do something now.

Against all his raging natural instincts, David stepped sideways to try to clear the ground in front of his colleague. It was the wrong move.  The time had run out. He heard the captain’s loud shout at the same time as he heard the bomb go off. Boom! The whole earth shock, and then there was…. Nothingness. David thought to himself. This must be what it is like to die. I must be dying. Then he had no more thoughts.

That was three months ago. It’s a miracle he did not die. What is left of him is hard to live with. As he lays here in hospital back at home having had so many near death episodes, in and out of comas, surgeries to save his life, with his life still hanging in the balance, blind and limbless, fighting to wanting to live, even more so after each of the numerous surgeries he has had, he realised he desperately wanted to live.

He was satisfied with what he has seen of the world so far. Now he was ready to settle down. To really live. His progress everyday was a surprise to all. Any one visiting him comes away with their faith in human kindness restored. David makes sure he tells them that he is no hero, he simply followed his natural instinct and that instinct tells him that there is so much more of life for him to live. He will fight to live. He is not about to give up now.

David is happy that, through his actions the life of a new father and husband had been spared. This whole experience has peeked his desire to live despite the seemingly un surmountable disabilities he will have to live with. No matter what the doctors say, he knows he will live. This was meant to be. His life now counts for something. He is survivor. Not only that, he has stared death in the face and refused to let it take both him and his colleague. David can barely talk, but his speech is so clear to anyone who listens.  Life is for the living, you can fight both for yours and that of others. Never give up. Never give in. Once a hero, always a hero. Come on soldier. The battle is not over yet. That is the voice of his commanding officer ringing in his head even now lying here, half dead. It is an order he intends to obey.

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But is it fair?

‘Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee’. (Exodus 20:12 KJV).
Why would God link the length of my days on earth with my honouring my father and my mother?
I have heard some really good stories about the demonstration of the love of a parent for a child. This is the experience of many. They can tell you story after story of how their parent (s) have been there for them through thick and thin. Some parents even lie to protect their children from legal judgement and will sacrifice their very lives for their children.
I have also heard some horror stories about the things some parents inflict on their children. Abuse upon abuse in their childhood. Bad behaviours and attitudes, competition, rejection, abandonment, denial, neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, you name it. Even one’s sworn enemy will think twice before doing some of the things some parents do to their children.

Due to these different types of Parent – Child relationship, some children in their adult years simply have a non existent relationship with their parents. This is their way; You live in your corner and I will live in mine. Take care of your troubles and I will take care of mine.

If they narrate their reasons for this way of life, you will begin to question the fairness of God’s blanket command that children should honour their parents.

A command telling us to honour our parents without an injunction of some kind can be hard for some  to take especially when it is linked to the longevity of their lives.
God always makes provision for the future. Children and future generations and their right upbringing is of paramount importance to God. The only way to ensure this is for parents to operate correctly in their roles as God planned it so that their seed – their children and their children’s children will inherit and lay hold of what God has purposed for them. In this way, God ordained visions and purposes will be established in the earth.
Remember you only live as long as the purpose for your life continues.
Therefore honouring our parents, establishes at least three things;
It makes us know who we are accountable to (while we are children) and belong with on this earth,
It makes the parents know who they are accountable or responsible for on this earth,
and it provides a witness, an account for us (parents and children) before God.
God expects compliance with his command to honour our parents. The bible says that; ‘There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother.’ (Proverbs 30:11 KJV). This is not in line with honouring our parents.

I believe a parent’s work is never done. Even in old age, they can lay hands on you (their child) and impart a blessing. Their good thoughts towards you is a blessing in itself. Their prayers for you reaches God quickly because they paid the price to raise you up more so than anyone else has.

Even for the parents that are irresponsible and treat their children simply as an inconvenience or as an investment to reap from in the future ( particularly in some cultures), the command to the children is still to honour them.

He does not ask that we love our parents. That is our Christian duty towards all men and women. He asks us to honour them. When you honour someone, you give them praise and elevation above yourself because of what they have done or who they are to you.
When a child honours a parent who does not deserve to be honoured, it is almost like crediting one’s account with God. He owes you, because as a child, the provision for your sustenance and your development is placed in the hands of your parents and if they by their own will refused to provide for you according to God’s plan, then they are accountable to God for this. Your honouring them irrespective of this confirms this debt and God knows how to balance the account. As he says in his word; ‘When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up’.(Psalm 27:10 KJV).
So, yours is to obey his word and honour your parents.
As a parent, it is important that you realise that God takes your role and responsibility seriously. Your child did not chose you. You chose to have them. Don’t treat them like you are doing them a favour. Don’t mistreat your children. Don’t neglect them. It is a responsibility God has given you to take care of them for him. Do it cheerfully and faithfully. He did not give them to you to pass them on to someone else. So don’t. Not even to a rich person, a spiritual leader, a grandmother, an uncle or aunt etc. You will account for this. God chose you irrespective of your circumstances to be the parent of that child. That child has a unique purpose and must have a unique set of experiences which you are best placed to provide. Live up to your responsibilities. He has and will continue to give you the provision to raise that child the way he has purposed.
Your children are not investment opportunities for you. They belong to God first and foremost. You do not raise your children so that in future you can control them and dump all your problems on them either. Don’t over burden your children, let them enjoy honouring you. Don’t treat them like a business investment. Don’t say, ‘I took care of you as a child so now you take care of me and all your brothers and sisters too’. Don’t forget, they may also have children that they need to be responsible for. Don’t usurp that provision for yourself just because you are their parent. Honor is not a thing that can be forced. It is given willingly. If as a parent you are not receiving the honour you think you deserve, you need to question the past and how you raised your children. What kind of parent were you? Did you to some extent neglect your responsibilities? Were you a ‘ nightmare’ of a parent who never showed a nurturing or a loving side?
‘Fathers, ( and mothers) provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged’. (Colossians 3:21 KJV).
‘And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord’. (Ephesians 6:4 KJV)
Trust in God. Pray for your children and live the rest to God.

Children, honour your parents. God does not even ask that children should love their parents but simply that they honour them. By so doing, children remind parents of their responsibilities as parents and also make parent’s job easier. Children grow and develop all the capacity they need to fulfil their purpose on earth. Parents care and contribution as far as raising God fearing, matured and well balanced children pays off as such children will be blessed with long and purposeful lives. They can then pass on good traits, behaviours, the fear of God, etc to the generations after them. This is what God wants.

The first decision that God made about you without your permission is your parentage and your background. Your future and what you will be are very linked to this. He therefore commands you irrespective of the circumstances of that parentage to honour your parents – the ones who birthed you and raised you.
Since he is the one we all are ultimately accountable to, he will balance our accounts and so will ensure that whatever we sow, we also will reap.
Enough said !!!!!
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Where Are The Children?

 

 And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man (Luke 2:52 KJV)

Children grow in a community irrespective of their background, culture, or how much parents are protective of them or isolate them.

Children are like sponges that are just rife and ready to soak up whatever they can pick up from influencing agents around them. They actually look for these influences and will be open to them whether positive or negative. This is usually a collection of influencing agents with some balancing out the others and all working to mould that child’s thinking or growth. I call it a community of influences.

Sometimes, parents make the mistake of thinking that as long as they are teaching the word of God to their children, that is enough. The issue is that there is a mix of influences and you have to get the mix right otherwise what you are teaching them may be crowded out by other influencers and become of no effect.

It is also the child himself or herself who chooses the hierachy of importance in their community of Influences. That is why forcing children to church and christian events without ensuring that their interest in it is always optimised will simply lead to them pushing it to the bottom of their community of influences. They will attend church alright just to please you but is it being relevant to their developing psyche? Are the things of God ranking high in their community of influences?

I despair sometimes at the boring nature of some the children’s christian films and cartoons and it is a struggle to keep the children as engaged with it as they tend to be with the secular cartoons. Try watching these with your child ( if you have little ones) and you yourself will find that the secular ones do not give the children a chance to disengage. Every space is filled with colour, rhythm, music. It keeps them glued and thereby fully transmits whatever message it is trying to transmit. It is a challenge to find excellent Christian ones that you want them to watch which are equally engaging.

We always have to be aware that children will find a way to choose the community they associate with and you cannot forcefully disengage them from the negative ones if you do not help them to find  replacements which they consider valid and deserving of  high places in their community of influences.

 The way our children think, the things that are important to them, the orientation of their developing ideologies about life, their language, attitudes and even their expectations of themselves and others are all moulded by these influences.

So instead of telling your child to never to talk to that friend of his or hers again because of the negative influence he /she has on your child,  you will have to work harder to provide a viable alternative or opportunities that enable him or her to see what you see. Otherwise, the attraction will even get stronger.

Children will choose these associations directly if the opportunity to do so is there or indirectly through role models, for example on TV, through video games, cartoons etc. They will speak their language all day, idolise them and behave like them.

 
I remember when my first son was quite little, about 5 years old, he was given homework from school to go and learn more about his favourite film or book character and come and share this at school. His dad was working on the homework with him and tried to guide him towards choosing a biblical character. He told him Jesus Christ was the best character to go and talk about. At the end of their discussion, our son appeared to be in deep thought and then said with all confidence to his father. ‘but daddy Sportagus is better’. Sportagus is a cartoon hero character he was fascinated by at the time. Although he was surrounded by biblical and Christian influences in his home almost all the time, in his hierarchy of importance, in his community of influences, Sportagus was very high at the time. He will jump, run, speak, somersault and try to imitate all the antics of Sportagus. He just found him so “cool”. This taught us that children will look at all the influences around them and choose for themselves a community and will adopt the ideology, a language, an attitude and a lifestyle as is being transmitted to him or her.

As parents we have to be vigilant about this, particularly we should not assume that they are only being influenced by what we ourselves consciously present to them. Even when it comes to what we present to them, they watch everything; our confidence in what we profess, the way we live our own lives and automatically imput these into their community of influences. I can’t tell you the number of parents I meet who are unconscious of the effect their adult interactions as observed by their children from day to day has on them. Their way of life, attitudes, arguments, their speech etc all have effect. Whether their children take what they say to them seriously or not depends on how they filter what they see and hear within their mix or community of influences. Children soon know what is real and what is not and what they can easily get away with while their parents are not being attentive.

Jesus grew up within a community too. He had influences on his life. We are told about the yearly pilgrimage his family made to Jerusalem to worship and how when he was 12, he decided to take matters into his own hand and go missing only to be found in the temple debating with the learned people. He clearly exhibits that the pull factor for him, the highest ranking in his community of influences was being with people who knew and dealt with the scriptures. He was unapologetic when his parents found him.

‘And when they saw him, they were amazed: and his mother said unto him, Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold, thy father and I have sought thee sorrowing. And he said unto them, How is it that ye sought me? wist ye not that I must be about my Father’s business? ‘(Luke 2:48, 49 KJV).

His reply was not rude as some may consider it to be. He expected that his parents will be aware of the dominant thing in his community of influences and this should tell them where he is likely to be and what he is likely to be doing. Afterall, they are his parents, they know and have allowed the influences in his life so far so this should not be a surprise to them.

As a parent, do you know where your children are? Ideologically, in terms of their values and beliefs, and the dominant influencers in their community of influences. Did you have a plan in place as to how to influence this community? Or are you going to act surprised when you discover where your child is? Because it might not be where you expected him or her to be. Some parents are surprised when they hear their children use swear words. They are adamant their children didn’t pick it up from them. So where did they pick up such behaviour?

In the case of Jesus, he was found in a good place. Will your child be found in a good place? Because of the good mix of influences on Jesus, the bible tells us that ‘And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, filled with wisdom: and the grace of God was upon him.’ (Luke 2:40 KJV).
‘And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man’. (Luke 2:52 KJV).

Don’t you want that for your child. I do. Desperately. Let’s help them along the way towards this goal.

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Women and Children

 

 

And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which God hath graciously given thy servant. (Genesis 33:5 KJV).

When it counts most, it is the women and the children who suffer. They bear the brunt of society’s failings. They are the most vulnerable ones .

They are not the least important but their status and how they are treated is the real measure of any society’s true potential.

Women are nurturers. Children are the future in seed form which women nurture. Where ever you find the two groups together, there you will also find true wealth in it’s latent developing form.

Children in the hands of a good woman live and thrive. They are nurtured, taught both practical things and wisdom for living. Greatness is developed there, irrespective of disadvantages or lack or deprivation, the children are safe with their good mothers who will put every resource available into the nurturing of the children first.

During the recent earthquakes in Japan, the world saw a very emotional picture of a dead woman who was pulled out of the rubble after many days. The rescuers were shocked to find that cradled securely and safely in her arms was her baby who was still alive because the mother used her body to bear the brunt of the dangerous debris which fell on them and buried them. What a portrait of love. She gave her life to preserve a generation.

You hear it all the time, women give up their careers, what they could have been, they sacrifice these for the sake of their marriages and their children so they can focus on the seed carriers and the seeds so as to give them the best future .

Although a woman does not produce biological seed but only receives it, God made this phenomenal statement concerning the woman in her worse moment of crisis when she had not even behaved appropriately;

‘And the Lord God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou art cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel’. (Genesis 3:14, 15 KJV)

The seed of the woman shall bruise the serpents head. Phenomenal. It takes greater power to bruise the head of a thing than it’s heel. To bruise the head there has to be a face to face confrontation which requires strategising and preparation. To bruise the heel requires so much less. It simply requires coming from behind the person and hurting them unawares.

It is the seed which the woman brings forth and nurtures, trains, teaches etc that will confront the darkness in the world and win the victory. All children need good mothers, not only to bring them forth but to bring them up as well with instruction, admonition and gentle and tender loving care. They need their fathers too but in a different way. They need their fathers to give them a begining, an identity, a calling, a name, boundaries and access to provisions to ensure their care.

Children are not the only seeds a woman can nurture. All visions need nurturers. If you doubt what I am saying go to any church or caring organisation and you will see that the women out number the men. Their hearts are soft, they are receptive and hospitable and provide the atmosphere for growth. They bring beauty to a thing.

The issue is not that a woman does not have seed of her own. Whatever a woman has is supposed to be a depository, a bank, a resevoir to be accessed under authority for a specific purpose, a help meet (suitable for a particular purpose). She cannot therefore use it anyway and anyhow she likes. She has to be released to use it or else she destroys herself.

It is a good woman who also ensures that the seed carrier, the man, does not waste his seed which is the greatness in him but puts it to good use as a responsible person, who doesnot shift blame, so that his assignment and the work of his hands does not cease and end with him but is carried safely and transferred to another generation of seed carriers.

So it does not matter how much wealth and power you accumulate if the women you are associated with are not cared for, allowed to use resources, elevated, protected, your hardworking and all your efforts will end with you. A woman has the capacity to build without hankering for accolade or recognition. All she needs is to be well cared for and honoured in her environment and not left idle or resourceless (without a seed) or without opportunities to nurture.

The worse thing on earth to a woman is not being able to carry seed and bring it forth. No amount of comforting words can fill that vacuum. She needs seed which has been released to her. Without seed she will be idle and she will get into trouble trying to fill that vacuum with other things.A woman’s seed which she brings forth and nutures, defines her. Just start a thing, hand it over to a good woman and you can be sure that it will grow into what you couldn’t even plan for. It will bear many fruits as long as you give good boundaries, the support needed and you do not control the nurturing but give it the needed resources and environment, it will grow. Good women have the ‘Midas Touch’.

In the absence of this, your seed attempts to grow in harsh, hostile, competitive environments and becomes stunted in it’s growth. Anyone who does not release, commision and allow the resources and virtue in the women in his life to take effect does not grow proportionally. Because nurturing has been stunted, growth gets stunted as well. True nurturing of a vision (seed) and the vision carier (seed giver) cannot be replaced with any other thing. It shows in the results in the long term.

You see, God set up a structure after the fall of man. A woman’s desire shall be to her husband. In other words, everything a woman desires for herself shall be subjected to the approval of her husband or the authority figure in her life. If she is not married that will be her father, biological, adopted, spiritual. She herself is to subject her desire to him. It is her husband as the seed carrier who gives her seed a name, an identity and gives her the permission, the masculine support and sets the boundaries within which her protection is secure so that she can nurture the seed and bring it forth.

‘Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee’. (Genesis 3:16 KJV)

A woman who refuses to subject herself to this authority usurps her resources and abuses the seed she has. She will go overboard and the enemy knows it too.

God’s basic structure of functioning has not changed even after the redemptive work of Jesus. Why should it? The value of the woman has not changed. Her potential and abilities are still there just as God made them. Women and their seed still need security and protection and elevation and release according to God’s order.

‘For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (Ephesians 5:23-28 KJV)

We are none of us without seed. But unless the seed in a woman is named, affirmed and called forth it remains a seed. A woman cannot bring forth without casualties to the seed if that seed and the woman herself is not identified and supported through the whole process. You cannot behave anyhow when you are pregnant. You need someone to hold up their hands and say they are responsible for you and the iunborn child. You need their support even after you get pregnant and you need boundaries, things you are allowed to do and not allowed to do. You need antenatal care, love and security, all these to bring forth a healthy child without suffering miscarriages along the way. Same principle applies to vision and all else you do as a woman.

 
God knows the richness of the resources he has put in women so whenever there was a great moment of crisis in bible times, he calls on the women to travail, to cry out to bring forth a deliverer. He does not call on the politicians, the great ones in society, he calls on the woman, for the sake of posterity.

A woman is a resource bank, a favour bank, a vessel that needs to be treated according to knowledge and handled honourably because of what she contains. Her weakness is a vulnerability not because she is inferior but because she is carrying important cargo. Husbands are asked to honour them. Will God ask you to honour something inferior. No. You honour something valuable.

‘Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered’.( 1 Peter 3:7 KJV).

It is the vessel that is weak, not its contents. The strongest people I know are women. They have been through a lot but rise up, and keep going without complaining. They know how to answer the questions of life that confronts them.

That is why God has highly favoured women and has gone to all lengths to ensure their security. A man marries into a woman’s favour not her lack. If he is unable to do anything with that favour that is his own fault.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22 KJV).
Looking at the the main verse in this article, Jacob was about to have the greatest confrontation of his life with his twin brother who he stole the birth right from. So what does he do?  He divides his whole entourage into sections, sending ahead of him his men, the fighters, ( the economists, the politicians, etc) with portions of his wealth , cattle and sheep hoping that these will impress his brother and he will take them as presents from him so that his anger may be calmed.

But these were just material things. They did not represent Jacob’s future. They did not represent his seed, his potential or his capacity to take future territories. Esau knew this. He was not interested in seeing the present day fruits. He was more interested in seeing the seed carrier( Jacob), the seed nurturers and the seeds. These were the true measure of his wealth.

I pray that God will give you the wisdom to choose good and wise, seed carriers( men) and able seed nurturers ( women ). Also that you will count your wealth not by your fruits but by your nurturing capacity and by your seed which the Lord God will bless you with so that your future will be the expected end that God has in mind for you.

Enough said!!!!

ENOUGH SAID!!! - Articles by Selasie Bulmuo

Unforgettable!! That’s What You Are.

For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. (Malachi 2:16 KJV).

When we invest in something of great value we are quick to ask for a warranty, a guarantee that it will not break down in a short time. We go further to insure everything including our pets against future likely disasters.

Well God does the same when it comes to anything he institutes and commits to a human being. There is always limits and boundaries around the use of everything including your own self. If you break certain universal laws, you reap the negative consequences. If you refuse to give up chain smoking for example, you will be headed towards getting a lung disease.

Everything we are given freely to enjoy, also has boundaries within which to enjoy it in, so as to keep it safe and sound. A lot of the world’s problems come because of lack of control, excessive living and abuse of nature’s provisions.

When it comes to our relationships, they are meant to be operated by agreements and boundaries. Whether explicitly or implicitly every relationship in your life is maintained because both you and the others you are in relationship with, conduct your relationship knowing what you are allowed to do and not to do. It is up to you to set those boundaries, whether by verbal means or by non verbal means and ensure that on your side, you do not behave in a way that suggests to the other person that your boundaries are lax or that they can be re -negotiated as and when it takes their fancy. Without this in place, your relationships become like wildfire. They take over your life and lead you where you do not want to go, destroying everything in their path.

So it is up to you not only to choose where possible the people you bring into your life but also to choose and agree the rules of engagement from the very start of the relationship. There is now an expectation on both sides to stick to the agreement both in practical everyday living and also in principle ( in the spirit of the agreement), with no undercutting or short handed behaviours or hidden hatred.

God subjects himself to this principle when it comes to human beings. He is a respecter of free will because he is responsible for the choices he makes and like it or not you will be held responsible by him for the choices you make.

God therefore respects our relationships and the agreements we make with one another. Where there is true and positive agreement towards a specific positive purpose, he always lends his support and involvement.

‘Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven’. (Matthew 18:19 KJV).

Can two walk together except they are in agreement?

‘Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican’. (Matthew 18:15-17 KJV)

Relationships must always be brought back to the place of agreement. If they cannot then the relationship does not exist as it should before God. What he sees when he looks at the parties involved is a victim and a perpetrator. An abuser and the abused. The residue of the spirit when there should have been no residue but full acceptance and equilibrium. He always will go about setting the record straight.

‘Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord’. (Romans 12:19 KJV).

God himself operates by Covenants. Covenants are agreements to which the parties pledge never to break or breach forever and ever. Each willingly enters into it and submits to its terms forever. This is God’s insurance policy given the fickleness of Man’s heart. For a blessing to be established, God wants it to transcend the one person and to reach to future generations. A Covenant not only implicates the Covenantee but also generations after him or her. Why? So that the benefits of that Covenant, the fruit of it will last and be established for the benefit of others. The same thing happens when a Covenant is breached. The consequences of it transcends the offender reaching to his children and his children’s children, to generations yet unborn. That is why blessings and curses transcend generations. It is because they are the result of Covenants between man and God or between man and man (humans) with a God as the arbitrator. They were made to last and be rock solid.

You see the Trinity does not need a Covenant. They are a bonded 3 in 1. Always have been, always will be. But humans, that’s another story.

Covenants are made so an unbreakable bond or agreement can be entered into. Never to be broken.

So marriage which is one of God’s masterpieces can be built on no less than a Covenant. We choose our own lifelong partners, hopefully we are allowed to do so voluntarily. We agree our own terms and boundaries. That is Covenant enough as far as God is concerned irrespective of whether you are a Christian or not.

But as Christains we go even further. We bring our chosen ones before God and we vow and verbally reiterate the Covenant in his presence. We submit to the added bonus of God’s own set of rules and boundaries as far as the marriage relationship is concerned and he gives us to each other as a sacred gift. He blesses the union and makes the couple ONE. This ‘making one’ is a replica of the bonding within the trinity. It is unbreakable. And God expects the parties involved to realise the enormity of the Covenant they have entered into.

Jesus was questioned about the issue of separation and divorce. Look at the discussion:

‘The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry’. (Matthew 19:3-6, 8-10 KJV).

The disciples seeing the enormity of the implications of the Covenant concluded that it is not good to marry. Jesus did not agree with their assertion but did not belittle it either. He simply said that some are eunuchs by choice and others by compulsion. In other words, if you cannot comply to God’s terms, it is better not to get Covenanted.

The emphasis appears to be on protecting the women. There’s good reason for this, most of which I cannot go into in this post. But put simply, the woman was made as a resource bank, a gift to bring completeness where there is lack of any kind. It is just like God to want to insure a thing like that. Even you, will you leave your resource bank unprotected? He always puts a woman under the care of someone he can hold responsible and accountable. Before she is married that will be a father, natural, adopted or spiritual. He holds them to account for this resource bank and how it is used.

The woman is also the nurturer of the seed. Without her, there will be no future generations. She receives the seed, carries the seed, nurtures the seed and brings it forth. And I am not talking just about children. Let the Holy Spirit help your understanding. It is the seed brought forth by the woman that does the damage to the devil. 

On a material level, it takes a father and a mother working together in agreement to bring forth and raise godly children who will be sound and whole enough to undertake God’s agenda optimally on earth.

The safety of the woman who is the more vulnerable one is important to God. As a woman, I am always amazed at the length to which God goes in scripture to protect the woman. So that most scriptures we read which seem to be disqualifying women and putting them to the background are simply a picture of God’s heart towards her. A woman who is loved, cherished and protected is a reservoir of power and goodness not only to her children but the world at large.

So God takes it very seriously when women are abused, beaten, maltreated, used, degraded and violated and worse of all, put away, or divorced and left in the cold without a covering of a husband or a father. It is even worse when her children are thrown out with her.

Any man who does this callously and without great thought is in my view courting with danger.

‘A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation’. (Psalm 68:5 KJV)

A woman who is put away is like a widow in God’s view. Note that a widow is a woman whose husband is dead. In putting your wife away callously, you are like a ‘dead man walking’.

However if the husband is still alive God expects him to return for his wife where possible and he expects all others to stay away and same for the wife.

‘And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery’. (Mark 10:11, 12 KJV).

Listen to Jesus’s words again;

‘And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery’. (Matthew 19:9 KJV).

In the light of the above, God will avenge and so he answers a complaint made by the people as follows;

‘And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth’. (Malachi 2:13-15 KJV)

The wife of your youth is simply your first wife and God expects you to have only one.

I cannot say it any better than has been said in the scripture above. Marriage is a covenant and one that God takes extremely seriously. All I can say is be careful in your decision making about marriage. If you go for it, you cannot ‘put away’. There are consequences which are dire.

You are unforgettable as far as God is concerned. Your worth is beyond measure. He will fight for you.

Disclaimer: This post is my understanding of what the scriptures say. You may not agree with it. But read it thoughtfully and raise such questions as you may have to God. He is able to shed light on what you need further explanation for. This is the best I can do. God help us all.

Enough Said!!!