A Passing Ship In the Night


I saw a passing ship
During my midnight hour
It seemed to freely move
Away from where I’m docked
Locked down by ties that bind

I yearn to go aboard
For it to take me away
For there perhaps I’ll chance
Upon my delayed desires
Which time and tide forgot

To go I can’t, for bound I am
By vows I must not break
So here I stand unmoving
Both night and day unmoving
While yet another ship sails away
Away with my hopes and dreams


Promise Keepers, Promise Breakers

Too many promises
Too few promise keepers
Thoughts of the future
Should brighten up one’s world
Knowing tomorrow promises
To be better than today
This keeps you moving forward
No matter how deep the pain
Re – emerging, Re- branding
Both your dreams and yourself
But never ever forgetting
The faithful promises you’ve made
To another human soul
Just as desperate as yours

While you’re hoping your train comes in
And the tide finally turns in your favour
Remember, this is not just about you
Tomorrow’s promises for each one of a pair
Are jointly borne by that pair
Unless they consider each other with love
All Promises made will remain a dream
You are shackled to a forever pledge
Limiting your ability to help yourself
Unlike others, you are not free to roam
To employ smart tactics to win the day
If a true promise keeper you want to be
Then work at it without reprieve

True Promise keepers are very rare
Faithful ones who stand by you
No matter what the forecast is
Who will give you what is due to you
With humility and kind graciousness too
Being mindful your needs do count
They remember their promises so sweetly made
When hope and dreams were still so fresh
As desperate times now approach
They remain faithful no matter what
They remember their sacred vows made to you

To have and to hold
To love and to Cherish
In sickness and in Health
For better or for Worse
Till death do us part

But for most who look around them now
Broken dreams undisgused abound
Promise breakers not a few
Who said sweet words they could not keep
So to those yet to lock themselves in
Shackled for life to a promise breaker
Be careful who you partner with
Not all talkers are true keepers
Promise breakers will dash your dreams
Right at your feet with no regrets
Leaving you to pick up the pieces
And start again if only you can

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It’s My Body. I Can Do What I Want!!!


Have you ever been to a shop where the prices of items being sold are way more than you can afford? But you still linger and look around. It’s called window shopping; the dangerous kind because before you know it you have bought what you can’t afford to pay for. You end up using your credit card which amounts to paying for your present with your future. A very silly thing to do.

Let’s examine the phenomenon of window shopping. I am sure ladies will understand this better than the men, ….. Well some of the men. Ladies generally like to shop, …. mainly for shoes, bags and clothes and accessories. Almost every single one of us have at least once subjected ourselves to the disillusion of buying something we couldn’t afford or didn’t really need just because we liked the look of it or we had previously seen it advertised, heard it was on sale (price reduced) etc.

The thing is, when you go shopping, you are advised that it is best to have a shopping list so you buy only what you have budgeted for. In the absence of a shopping list and a huge sense of financial responsibility, you will give in to the need for retail therapy and try to satisfy an emotional need by buying what you cannot afford.

The way it happens is you tell yourself I will just have a look in that shop so I can see what they have there for future planning purposes. This may not have been the plan for the day but you do it anyway, because the window display is so alluring and the brand is a popular brand and everyone who is someone, has something from that brand. There are even window shoppers who intentionally plan to go window shopping. They do not have the money to spend but set a whole day aside to just go and look around the shops. I cannot understand why anyone will intentionally plan to make themselves miserable like that. Why plan a whole day of looking at stuff you can’t afford when you know better and updated models of the same thing will still be there come the day you are able to afford it?

The conclusion of the matter is inevitable. You will feel so miserable, you will compensate by buying something you are not ready for. This applies to our whole lives, particularly when it comes to the issue of the things we do with our bodies, be it overeating, overindulgence, all the ‘overs’ which are negative and amount to abuse or misuse of what God has kindly given to us for a purpose.

There is one area that causes a lot of controversy. It is the issue of sex. Are we free to make the decision particularly while we are unmarried about when to have sex, who to have sex with and where to do so? Unlike the ‘overs’, sex is a neutral thing. What we do with it, how, when and with who will either make it positive or negative. Some people say that it is the same as needing to eat and is a need that must be satisfied. But you will agree with me that whereas we have eaten since we were born, we cannot say the same about sex. On a human level it is therefore a controllable urge or at the very least should be. Otherwise we are no better than the animals.

The bible is very clear about what God thinks on the issue. Sex is to be confined to the intimacy of marriage and for good reason too. Because there are responsibilities resulting from having sex and it is in the security of marriage where the couple are not only accountable to each other but to God as well that such responsibilities are best taken care off. The issues that result from sex are very important to God because there is nothing that involves the sharing of the very core of yourself with another as much as sex does. Even more serious is that someone else is sharing themselves with you and even if you don’t care about yourself, this other person has value at least to God and your treating their body as a plaything amounts to abuse.

One such responsibility that can come from having sex is falling pregnant. The statistics on abortions – unwanted pregnancies and abandoned babies is staggering. These are souls with a purpose that God is dispatching to the earth and their lives are terminated before they have even had a chance to live.

Little children mean the world to God. Both born and unborn. The bible says that; ‘But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven. Even so it is not the will of your Father which is in heaven, that one of these little ones should perish. (Matthew 18:6, 10, 14 KJV).

Sex outside a secure God fearing marriage exposes these little ones both born and unborn to danger, to abuse and horrible upbringings. If you live abroad just have a look at the number of children within the care system and the trauma that some of them have been through in their young lives and you will understand that this is no playing matter.

Apart from unwanted children, there is the issue of Venereal Diseases. If you were to contract aids from sleeping around, you will be the same person crying to God day and night to heal you.

You are so valuable to God that he does not want you to be bought by someone who cannot pay the price for you simply because they are window shopping and like the look of what they see and feel the urge to make themselves feel better. Why should you be a victim of this? You will be misused as the person hasn’t got the capacity to maintain what they cannot afford. You will be used and discarded. Your value tainted. Your self esteem punctured.

Sex is not a cure for loneliness. It will make it worse at the end of the day.

‘A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished’. (Proverbs 22:3 KJV). There are those who argue that they know what they are doing and are not being used. If anything they are the ones doing the using. Well… I can tell you from the number of couples that share issues with me in counselling that, problems following marriage particularly the issue of mistrust and infidelity all stem from pre – marital sex between the couple. If they did it with each other before marriage, what is to stop one of them from doing it with someone else outside the marriage? If they could not control their urge with you, what is the proof that they can control it with someone else they are attracted to outside the marriage. I promise you, that there will be someone else more attractive than you.

It takes a decision and an irrevocable choice on the behalf of couples not to stray outside their marriage and to be faithful to each other. I have met women particularly who accuse their husbands of cheating and the men swear by everything you can see that they haven’t but this does not resolve the issue for the women. Why? Because trust was broken before the marriage begun.

And for all who want to ‘try before they buy’, why would anyone want to buy something they can try on several times as much as they want for free? They are most likely to try it and decide to buy one they haven’t tried instead. The same ‘users’ will be willing to pay the price for what they haven’t tried.

A lot of young people find themselves in a relationship with someone they do not really want but stay on because they have had a child only to hear later that this person has legally married someone else. Some even introduce themselves as single, still clinging to the hope that one day they will get the chance to marry someone they really want. They wake up maybe ten years later and realise they are locked in a marriage or a relationship and have not been able to move on.

Some have the fear that they will not be sexually compatible with their spouse if they don’t try before they marry. Marriage entails far more than sex and you will have to be very naive to not know who you are attracted to and compatible with without having sex with them first. Pre – Marital and extra marital sex  just cloud your judgement and you may make silly life long decision based purely on a physical or emtional high not backed by solid, sound and godly reasoning and motivations. It is better to get to know a person for who they are first and ensure that they have the values and the ability to maintain your attention, interest and engagement before you have sex with them. Otherwise, you will soon find that you have lost interest in them and feel trapped in a relationship.

The most important issue however is that God expects you to abstain from sex before marriage. He calls it fornication when you don’t. He considers your body as his temple, his dwelling place, his sanctuary. You carry his Holy presence so whatever you do in your body you involve him without his consent.

It is only in marriage which he is the initiator of that  he brings two people together and makes them one. He blesses them and within the remit of this godly marriage, he actually encourages sexual relations exclusively between the man and his wife only. It is his gift to them as a married couple. It is a replica of his relationship with the church for which he gave his only begotten son. The bible therefore admonishes us as follows; ‘Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body’. (1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV). ‘Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband’. (1 Corinthians 7:2 KJV). ‘Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge’. (Hebrews 13:4 KJV).

‘For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication’. (1 Thessalonians 4:3 KJV). Many have fallen into fornication due to the lack of the knowledge I am sharing now. Your days of ignorance are over. Set things aright now before it is too late. Let your intrinsic value and your face value match. Wait for your appointed time and it shall be wonderful.

Enough said!!!!!

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Women and Children



And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which God hath graciously given thy servant. (Genesis 33:5 KJV).

When it counts most, it is the women and the children who suffer. They bear the brunt of society’s failings. They are the most vulnerable ones .

They are not the least important but their status and how they are treated is the real measure of any society’s true potential.

Women are nurturers. Children are the future in seed form which women nurture. Where ever you find the two groups together, there you will also find true wealth in it’s latent developing form.

Children in the hands of a good woman live and thrive. They are nurtured, taught both practical things and wisdom for living. Greatness is developed there, irrespective of disadvantages or lack or deprivation, the children are safe with their good mothers who will put every resource available into the nurturing of the children first.

During the recent earthquakes in Japan, the world saw a very emotional picture of a dead woman who was pulled out of the rubble after many days. The rescuers were shocked to find that cradled securely and safely in her arms was her baby who was still alive because the mother used her body to bear the brunt of the dangerous debris which fell on them and buried them. What a portrait of love. She gave her life to preserve a generation.

You hear it all the time, women give up their careers, what they could have been, they sacrifice these for the sake of their marriages and their children so they can focus on the seed carriers and the seeds so as to give them the best future .

Although a woman does not produce biological seed but only receives it, God made this phenomenal statement concerning the woman in her worse moment of crisis when she had not even behaved appropriately;

‘And the Lord God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou art cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel’. (Genesis 3:14, 15 KJV)

The seed of the woman shall bruise the serpents head. Phenomenal. It takes greater power to bruise the head of a thing than it’s heel. To bruise the head there has to be a face to face confrontation which requires strategising and preparation. To bruise the heel requires so much less. It simply requires coming from behind the person and hurting them unawares.

It is the seed which the woman brings forth and nurtures, trains, teaches etc that will confront the darkness in the world and win the victory. All children need good mothers, not only to bring them forth but to bring them up as well with instruction, admonition and gentle and tender loving care. They need their fathers too but in a different way. They need their fathers to give them a begining, an identity, a calling, a name, boundaries and access to provisions to ensure their care.

Children are not the only seeds a woman can nurture. All visions need nurturers. If you doubt what I am saying go to any church or caring organisation and you will see that the women out number the men. Their hearts are soft, they are receptive and hospitable and provide the atmosphere for growth. They bring beauty to a thing.

The issue is not that a woman does not have seed of her own. Whatever a woman has is supposed to be a depository, a bank, a resevoir to be accessed under authority for a specific purpose, a help meet (suitable for a particular purpose). She cannot therefore use it anyway and anyhow she likes. She has to be released to use it or else she destroys herself.

It is a good woman who also ensures that the seed carrier, the man, does not waste his seed which is the greatness in him but puts it to good use as a responsible person, who doesnot shift blame, so that his assignment and the work of his hands does not cease and end with him but is carried safely and transferred to another generation of seed carriers.

So it does not matter how much wealth and power you accumulate if the women you are associated with are not cared for, allowed to use resources, elevated, protected, your hardworking and all your efforts will end with you. A woman has the capacity to build without hankering for accolade or recognition. All she needs is to be well cared for and honoured in her environment and not left idle or resourceless (without a seed) or without opportunities to nurture.

The worse thing on earth to a woman is not being able to carry seed and bring it forth. No amount of comforting words can fill that vacuum. She needs seed which has been released to her. Without seed she will be idle and she will get into trouble trying to fill that vacuum with other things.A woman’s seed which she brings forth and nutures, defines her. Just start a thing, hand it over to a good woman and you can be sure that it will grow into what you couldn’t even plan for. It will bear many fruits as long as you give good boundaries, the support needed and you do not control the nurturing but give it the needed resources and environment, it will grow. Good women have the ‘Midas Touch’.

In the absence of this, your seed attempts to grow in harsh, hostile, competitive environments and becomes stunted in it’s growth. Anyone who does not release, commision and allow the resources and virtue in the women in his life to take effect does not grow proportionally. Because nurturing has been stunted, growth gets stunted as well. True nurturing of a vision (seed) and the vision carier (seed giver) cannot be replaced with any other thing. It shows in the results in the long term.

You see, God set up a structure after the fall of man. A woman’s desire shall be to her husband. In other words, everything a woman desires for herself shall be subjected to the approval of her husband or the authority figure in her life. If she is not married that will be her father, biological, adopted, spiritual. She herself is to subject her desire to him. It is her husband as the seed carrier who gives her seed a name, an identity and gives her the permission, the masculine support and sets the boundaries within which her protection is secure so that she can nurture the seed and bring it forth.

‘Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee’. (Genesis 3:16 KJV)

A woman who refuses to subject herself to this authority usurps her resources and abuses the seed she has. She will go overboard and the enemy knows it too.

God’s basic structure of functioning has not changed even after the redemptive work of Jesus. Why should it? The value of the woman has not changed. Her potential and abilities are still there just as God made them. Women and their seed still need security and protection and elevation and release according to God’s order.

‘For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (Ephesians 5:23-28 KJV)

We are none of us without seed. But unless the seed in a woman is named, affirmed and called forth it remains a seed. A woman cannot bring forth without casualties to the seed if that seed and the woman herself is not identified and supported through the whole process. You cannot behave anyhow when you are pregnant. You need someone to hold up their hands and say they are responsible for you and the iunborn child. You need their support even after you get pregnant and you need boundaries, things you are allowed to do and not allowed to do. You need antenatal care, love and security, all these to bring forth a healthy child without suffering miscarriages along the way. Same principle applies to vision and all else you do as a woman.

God knows the richness of the resources he has put in women so whenever there was a great moment of crisis in bible times, he calls on the women to travail, to cry out to bring forth a deliverer. He does not call on the politicians, the great ones in society, he calls on the woman, for the sake of posterity.

A woman is a resource bank, a favour bank, a vessel that needs to be treated according to knowledge and handled honourably because of what she contains. Her weakness is a vulnerability not because she is inferior but because she is carrying important cargo. Husbands are asked to honour them. Will God ask you to honour something inferior. No. You honour something valuable.

‘Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered’.( 1 Peter 3:7 KJV).

It is the vessel that is weak, not its contents. The strongest people I know are women. They have been through a lot but rise up, and keep going without complaining. They know how to answer the questions of life that confronts them.

That is why God has highly favoured women and has gone to all lengths to ensure their security. A man marries into a woman’s favour not her lack. If he is unable to do anything with that favour that is his own fault.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22 KJV).
Looking at the the main verse in this article, Jacob was about to have the greatest confrontation of his life with his twin brother who he stole the birth right from. So what does he do?  He divides his whole entourage into sections, sending ahead of him his men, the fighters, ( the economists, the politicians, etc) with portions of his wealth , cattle and sheep hoping that these will impress his brother and he will take them as presents from him so that his anger may be calmed.

But these were just material things. They did not represent Jacob’s future. They did not represent his seed, his potential or his capacity to take future territories. Esau knew this. He was not interested in seeing the present day fruits. He was more interested in seeing the seed carrier( Jacob), the seed nurturers and the seeds. These were the true measure of his wealth.

I pray that God will give you the wisdom to choose good and wise, seed carriers( men) and able seed nurturers ( women ). Also that you will count your wealth not by your fruits but by your nurturing capacity and by your seed which the Lord God will bless you with so that your future will be the expected end that God has in mind for you.

Enough said!!!!


What do you mean? – by Selasie Bulmuo

When you say you love someone, what do you mean?

Do you love them because of what they do for you, how they make you feel, and what they give to you.

When you say you can’t live without someone

Tell  me, what do you mean?

It is because you can’t live without the things they do for you

The true measure of love is not what you feel because of what someone can do for you.

The true measure of love is the length to which you will go for someone other than yourself.

So if you say you love someone

The question to yourself should be

Exactly what am I willing to sacrifice for someone as imperfect as them.

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Unforgettable!! That’s What You Are.

For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. (Malachi 2:16 KJV).

When we invest in something of great value we are quick to ask for a warranty, a guarantee that it will not break down in a short time. We go further to insure everything including our pets against future likely disasters.

Well God does the same when it comes to anything he institutes and commits to a human being. There is always limits and boundaries around the use of everything including your own self. If you break certain universal laws, you reap the negative consequences. If you refuse to give up chain smoking for example, you will be headed towards getting a lung disease.

Everything we are given freely to enjoy, also has boundaries within which to enjoy it in, so as to keep it safe and sound. A lot of the world’s problems come because of lack of control, excessive living and abuse of nature’s provisions.

When it comes to our relationships, they are meant to be operated by agreements and boundaries. Whether explicitly or implicitly every relationship in your life is maintained because both you and the others you are in relationship with, conduct your relationship knowing what you are allowed to do and not to do. It is up to you to set those boundaries, whether by verbal means or by non verbal means and ensure that on your side, you do not behave in a way that suggests to the other person that your boundaries are lax or that they can be re -negotiated as and when it takes their fancy. Without this in place, your relationships become like wildfire. They take over your life and lead you where you do not want to go, destroying everything in their path.

So it is up to you not only to choose where possible the people you bring into your life but also to choose and agree the rules of engagement from the very start of the relationship. There is now an expectation on both sides to stick to the agreement both in practical everyday living and also in principle ( in the spirit of the agreement), with no undercutting or short handed behaviours or hidden hatred.

God subjects himself to this principle when it comes to human beings. He is a respecter of free will because he is responsible for the choices he makes and like it or not you will be held responsible by him for the choices you make.

God therefore respects our relationships and the agreements we make with one another. Where there is true and positive agreement towards a specific positive purpose, he always lends his support and involvement.

‘Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven’. (Matthew 18:19 KJV).

Can two walk together except they are in agreement?

‘Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican’. (Matthew 18:15-17 KJV)

Relationships must always be brought back to the place of agreement. If they cannot then the relationship does not exist as it should before God. What he sees when he looks at the parties involved is a victim and a perpetrator. An abuser and the abused. The residue of the spirit when there should have been no residue but full acceptance and equilibrium. He always will go about setting the record straight.

‘Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord’. (Romans 12:19 KJV).

God himself operates by Covenants. Covenants are agreements to which the parties pledge never to break or breach forever and ever. Each willingly enters into it and submits to its terms forever. This is God’s insurance policy given the fickleness of Man’s heart. For a blessing to be established, God wants it to transcend the one person and to reach to future generations. A Covenant not only implicates the Covenantee but also generations after him or her. Why? So that the benefits of that Covenant, the fruit of it will last and be established for the benefit of others. The same thing happens when a Covenant is breached. The consequences of it transcends the offender reaching to his children and his children’s children, to generations yet unborn. That is why blessings and curses transcend generations. It is because they are the result of Covenants between man and God or between man and man (humans) with a God as the arbitrator. They were made to last and be rock solid.

You see the Trinity does not need a Covenant. They are a bonded 3 in 1. Always have been, always will be. But humans, that’s another story.

Covenants are made so an unbreakable bond or agreement can be entered into. Never to be broken.

So marriage which is one of God’s masterpieces can be built on no less than a Covenant. We choose our own lifelong partners, hopefully we are allowed to do so voluntarily. We agree our own terms and boundaries. That is Covenant enough as far as God is concerned irrespective of whether you are a Christian or not.

But as Christains we go even further. We bring our chosen ones before God and we vow and verbally reiterate the Covenant in his presence. We submit to the added bonus of God’s own set of rules and boundaries as far as the marriage relationship is concerned and he gives us to each other as a sacred gift. He blesses the union and makes the couple ONE. This ‘making one’ is a replica of the bonding within the trinity. It is unbreakable. And God expects the parties involved to realise the enormity of the Covenant they have entered into.

Jesus was questioned about the issue of separation and divorce. Look at the discussion:

‘The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry’. (Matthew 19:3-6, 8-10 KJV).

The disciples seeing the enormity of the implications of the Covenant concluded that it is not good to marry. Jesus did not agree with their assertion but did not belittle it either. He simply said that some are eunuchs by choice and others by compulsion. In other words, if you cannot comply to God’s terms, it is better not to get Covenanted.

The emphasis appears to be on protecting the women. There’s good reason for this, most of which I cannot go into in this post. But put simply, the woman was made as a resource bank, a gift to bring completeness where there is lack of any kind. It is just like God to want to insure a thing like that. Even you, will you leave your resource bank unprotected? He always puts a woman under the care of someone he can hold responsible and accountable. Before she is married that will be a father, natural, adopted or spiritual. He holds them to account for this resource bank and how it is used.

The woman is also the nurturer of the seed. Without her, there will be no future generations. She receives the seed, carries the seed, nurtures the seed and brings it forth. And I am not talking just about children. Let the Holy Spirit help your understanding. It is the seed brought forth by the woman that does the damage to the devil. 

On a material level, it takes a father and a mother working together in agreement to bring forth and raise godly children who will be sound and whole enough to undertake God’s agenda optimally on earth.

The safety of the woman who is the more vulnerable one is important to God. As a woman, I am always amazed at the length to which God goes in scripture to protect the woman. So that most scriptures we read which seem to be disqualifying women and putting them to the background are simply a picture of God’s heart towards her. A woman who is loved, cherished and protected is a reservoir of power and goodness not only to her children but the world at large.

So God takes it very seriously when women are abused, beaten, maltreated, used, degraded and violated and worse of all, put away, or divorced and left in the cold without a covering of a husband or a father. It is even worse when her children are thrown out with her.

Any man who does this callously and without great thought is in my view courting with danger.

‘A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation’. (Psalm 68:5 KJV)

A woman who is put away is like a widow in God’s view. Note that a widow is a woman whose husband is dead. In putting your wife away callously, you are like a ‘dead man walking’.

However if the husband is still alive God expects him to return for his wife where possible and he expects all others to stay away and same for the wife.

‘And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery’. (Mark 10:11, 12 KJV).

Listen to Jesus’s words again;

‘And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery’. (Matthew 19:9 KJV).

In the light of the above, God will avenge and so he answers a complaint made by the people as follows;

‘And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth’. (Malachi 2:13-15 KJV)

The wife of your youth is simply your first wife and God expects you to have only one.

I cannot say it any better than has been said in the scripture above. Marriage is a covenant and one that God takes extremely seriously. All I can say is be careful in your decision making about marriage. If you go for it, you cannot ‘put away’. There are consequences which are dire.

You are unforgettable as far as God is concerned. Your worth is beyond measure. He will fight for you.

Disclaimer: This post is my understanding of what the scriptures say. You may not agree with it. But read it thoughtfully and raise such questions as you may have to God. He is able to shed light on what you need further explanation for. This is the best I can do. God help us all.

Enough Said!!!